Cultivating Emotional Intelligence: The 5 Habits of the Emotion Coach

One of the most influential variables in human development is social relationships. Cultivating Emotional Intelligence: The 5 Habits of the Emotion Coach centers on how educators may build and use positive relationships with their students to help them grow in emotional intelligence. Additionally, this book seeks to answer the question, “What is the end goal of growing emotionally intelligent students? Is it a matter of understanding oneself and other’s emotions? Or is the goal simply to produce “good citizens”? As humans, we desire connection with others. And while most connections remain surface level, this book investigates how teachers can make a deeper connection with students for the purpose of growing emotional intelligence and teaching positive social skills. If educators are going to do so, it will be necessary to reframe traditional school practices that focus on promoting positive behaviors through a discipline system based upon consequences that fail to address the behavior in a redemptive manner.

Table of Contents:
Preface Acknowledgments Chapter 1. Introduction About the Book The Journey: Why Emotion Coaching Failure is Not an Option: It’s Not Just About the Five R’s Can We Truly Teach Emotions and Character? Aristotle Thought So Chapter 2. Understanding Emotional Intelligence and Behaviors Emotional Intelligence: what is it and why is it important? The Impact Parents, Teachers, and Other Adults Have on our EQ Development The Ultimate Goal: Emotional Intimacy Bonding and the Role of the Teacher Chapter 3. Self-awareness, Society, and Growing Emotional Intelligence What’s Wrong with Me? Why Should I Care? The Importance of Self-awareness Culture and Definitions: Their Impact on EQ Chapter 4. Teaching and Cultivating Emotional Intelligence Teaching andComing to a Frightening Conclusion It’s Not Fair! The Importance of How We Define Fairness Rigid Equality or Restorative Justice Chapter 5. Reframing Our Perspectives Introduction The Dismissive Response The Disapproving Response The Laissez-Faire Response The Emotion Coaching Approach When Emotion Coaching is Not Appropriate Chapter 6. Habit 1: Cultivating Trust What Do We Mean When We Talk About Trust? Building Trust Teaching Trust The Power of Self-trust Rebuilding Trust Chapter 7. Habit 2: Awareness of Student Emotions Introduction The Second Part of the Process Students Who Repress or Suppress Emotions What About Students Who Are Overly Expressive with Emotions? And What About Civility? Chapter 8. Habit 3: Listening with Empathy What More Can Be Said about Empathy? Understanding Empathy Listening with Empathy Empathy vs Sympathy: What Difference Does It Make? Chapter 9. Habit 4: Labeling Emotions Introduction Labeling versus Telling Understanding the Intensity Levels of Emotions How Does Helping Label Compare with Affect Labeling Wrapping It All Up Chapter 10. Habit 5: Problem Solving Introduction First Things First: Setting Limits Next Steps: Identifying Goals Problem Solving: Finding a Positive Solution References About the Author