Don't Get Engaged, Volume 1

Don't Get Engaged (until you read this book) will help you and your partner decide if you are truly right for each other to spend your lives together. It is a workbook with an emphasis on work. If you follow the instructions carefully, you will be taken through a process that will reveal all the information you need to make an enlightened decision about your relationship, and you'll have fun doing it.This is the full color version.The best way for you and your partner to accomplish this work is for you to each have a copy of the book. If that is not possible, just copy the questionnaires for your partner. Filling out the questionnaires separately helps to ensure honest and candid answers. If done together, your partner's answers may be what he/she guesses you would say and not what he/she really thinks: wanting too much to be liked. If you are together, it is too easy to be swayed or influenced by a verbal opinion from your partner or trying to think what the answer should be: second guessing. In a romantic atmosphere together, you or your partner might say, Oh yeah, I think that too, even though the exact opposite is true: manipulation. It's important you avoid these issues and answer the questions honestly and alone.During the process of completing the steps in the book, it is important to talk about what is real at the present time. You may also talk about what you would like to become, but don't deviate from who you really are, and what your life is like now!There are four steps in the book. Each step contains an introduction, instructions including preparation, planning, one or more activities and other assignments, questionnaires and concepts to consider. The process for each step is simple. First: Read the introduction and everything in the step. Fill out the questionnaires separately from your partner. Second: Follow the plan including preparation, planning and doing the activities and assignments. Third: Review your answers to the questionnaires together as instructed. Summarize where you agree and where you don't and analyze where compromises can or cannot happen. Fourth: At the end of each step, review what you have done, alone, and decide if you are ready to take the next step.And perhaps the most important part, make this fun. It's worth it.
About the Author: Laura Nielson Denke M.A. LMFT, LMHCLaura Nielson Denke has lived a varied life. She has a B.A. degree in Theater Arts and Communications, and a master's degree, in Marriage and Family Therapy. Mrs. Denke choreographed Summer Stock Theater as well as appeared as the lead in numerous musicals. She founded and directed the Seattle Children's Ballet Company choreographing annually, The Nutcracker Suite Ballet, Coppelia, Peter & the Wolf, and others. She toured her ballet company in Europe performing in Spain & Portugal. She founded the company, Victory Studios with her husband, Conrad W. Denke, for whom she wrote and directed Adventures on Sinclair Island. a local television show that was later translated and sold all over the world. She wrote and directed several video productions, winning national awards for her efforts. She served as the host of the television program, Teens Talk, which appeared locally in the greater Puget Sound area for four years. Later it was syndicated and sold to cable stations throughout the United States.Currently she holds the position of Executive Vice-president of Victory Studios. She is also a professional therapist with an office in Studio City, California. She specializes in pre-marital counseling and marriage counseling and is considered a relationship expert. She is a nationally licensed mental health counselor and licensed in the state of Washington and California as a Marriage and family Therapist.Laura has a show on You-Tube called Relationship Talk with Laura featuring 16 shows that help improve communications in marriage. This program promotes knowledge to help audience members learn how to make wise and educated decisions in relationships. Mrs. Denke is the author of two relationship books: Ten Secrets for Achieving a Successful Celestial Marriage, and Before the Wedding. and is a frequent guest speaker around Los Angeles.Mrs. Denke is known not only for her advice but also as a person who walks the talk. She has been married successfully for 40 years, has two married children and five grandchildren..