"One November afternoon, as I sat in my favorite chair appreciating autumn leaves, watching the light, drizzly rain on the trees create bright reflections of orange and red on the calm lake surface, the wrath of domestic abuse slammed into my space. I don't recall the offense that enraged my abuser toward me. As I felt his angry fingers bruise my biceps, as the back of my head and neck again slammed into the blue and white knobby fabric of my favorite chair's frame, I knew it was time I took action: "The next time I'm bruised, I'm gone" I had promised myself, dozens of times. This was the final straw. Finally, the decision was instantaneous." 1 in 3 women suffer abuse at the hands of a domestic partner. Domestic abuse is epidemic in proportion. Those of us who have lived it thought we were the only ones: we felt alone in our fear, eggshell walking, and misunderstanding. We love our abusers, we protect them, we lie for them at the expense of our emotional safety and health. This book provides a look behind those closed doors of domestic abuse. It shines a light on what caused us to be attracted to abusers. It provides actionable suggestions for changing our minds. It offers hope. If we don't change, nothing changes.
About the Author: Mickie Zada is an enthusiastic participant in life; That was not always the case. Having lived in domestic abuse for 34 years, she knows she stayed way too long at the dance. Why? Because like most abused spouses she loved her abuser, she thought she could change him, and she was convinced it was her personal mission to help keep her sometimes emotionally dysfunctional husband between the lines. In the process, she lost herself. After the divorce, Mickie realized if she didn't change herself, odds were very strong that she would go back to her abuser or choose another one. This book is the culmination of Mickie's personal growth path, her transition from a victim of domestic abuse to an enthusiastic participant in the safe, happy, and authentic life she has created. Mickie Zada is now a content creator, catalyst, and advocate for women who have escaped domestic abuse. She is a weekly podcast host, a frequent live video creator, writer and public speaker. Her Mission is to inspire, educate and encourage women who have experienced domestic abuse. She shares personal experiences, hurts, and frustration with readers. She provides practical lessons, actionable suggestions, and insightful perspectives for women who are rebuilding their lives after domestic abuse. Her message: You are not alone. There is hope!