Unburdening the Burden of Unforgiveness There is always a direct or even hidden question at the back of the mind of the reader, as to why the author wrote the book. Well, I must say I wrote this book LIFE AND LIFE REPUTATIONS ARE BY CHOICE [the very first book of a series of ten books] because I desired to help the readers layoff ''Unforgivingness Burden and dispose of its extensions in the form of Pessimism and Spitefulness and stop suffering as I did in the past.

I carried the Unforgiveness Burden for some years and suffered. I came to a point where I was challenged to lay off the BURDEN and I took the action, not necessarily bravely, but hungrily because I had suffered enough.I must say Unforgivingness Burden stood in my way of freedom of life, and peace of mind to think pure. It hindered my dreams and dreaming about my future. It blackened and blinded my bright view to see the future with hope, for a better me. And it blocked the path of being anticipative about what to expect in life.

I wrote to say to the reader if I suffered and overcame it; I don't expect anyone else to suffer it. But if because of choice or no choice one finds himself suffering it; I want to encourage and help such person recover before it is too late. The message of the book is: Don't take away your life because of past hurts and hurting, pains and sorrows, disappointments and shame, bitterness and anger, they are overcomable. You can choose to regain your own life, revive your dreams, and revitalize your vision. You can choose to reorganize your set goals and revisit your future hopes and expectations.

I wrote to teach the readers what I was taught and helped me. Some few years after I had come to know the LORD and accepted Christ Jesus, as my LORD and Savior: I heard the testimony that helped me change for good and compelled me to strive to overcome my past hurts and hurting, pains and sorrows, disappointments and shame, bitterness and anger.
I must say my past confused and frustrated me. It nearly led me to desert my father's family, everyone related to me, and everyone I knew forever. I was so intended to find myself far away from anything and anyone who commonly reminded me of my past suffering. I felt then I needed a new community and challenges altogether. But that was my view and not God's plan.

But I must tell you: God has His way to handle everyone and his situations, and He had His with me. The testimony I heard turned me 180 degrees. It did tear me apart at the hearing and led me to cry uncontrollably and collapse to the flour. Thanks to the mixed group of Christians around me at the time; they helped held me together and prayed with me to heal.
That testimony stayed with me and later helped me heal and find the courage to build the desired relationship platform to find lasting peace beyond past hurts and hurting, pains and sorrows, disappointments and shame, bitterness and anger. It helped me to find life and live beyond finger-pointing and blaming my lack of progress in life on my past failed upbringing.

I wrote to say to the reader: I had the choice of carrying the Unforgivingness Burden, as well as, the choice of laying it off or unburdening it. You have a choice to make whether you choose to carry the Unforgivingness Burden or lay it off and pursue the HOPE or not. You also have a choice to make, whether you heed the message of thriving over broken unrelenting chains of pains and disappointments of the past or not. Mind you Unforgivingness doesn't respect your position and belief subscription. I carried the Unforgivingness Burden from a young age, and I got into Christian Faith and Pastoral Ministry with the BURDEN. I didn't preach the BURDEN but lived it out.